Although genetics may factor into why men cheat on their partner it may also just be a week defense for a man who is caught in his unfaithful actions. A theory exists that testosterone levels in men make them more susceptible to infidelity. This theory is based on the hypothesis that men are genetically predisposed to cheating because they are ingrained with the notion that the survival of the species is dependent on their procreation. While this may be true it is certainly not an excuse for unfaithfulness in our age of overpopulation. It may be true that in prehistoric times, men were tasked with populating the earth this is certainly not true today and is not a defensible excuse for cheating on your partner. The truth is that in a truly loving relationship a man should be able to control himself and remain faithful despite any hormonal urges to produce offspring. The theory of man being predisposed to cheating does not hold water because while it may be true, there is no excuse for not being able to quell these urges.Â

Another reason men cheat is because they feel a sense of challenge in their infidelity. Actually being able to get away with an affair is a challenge that men enjoy. Additionally they enjoy the challenge of finding other women with which to cheat. To them the affair is more about the conquest then anything else. Sure they may enjoy the physicality of the affair, but the pursuit and sneaking around is what really drives men who cheat on their partners. They see fooling their partner as a tremendous accomplishment and they enjoy the logistics of orchestrating the affair without their partner learning of their transgressions. To them the thrill of sneaking around and the fear of being caught creates and adrenaline rush that is more important than the affair or even their current relationship. Men also cheat because they are driven by competition. If there friends are single or cheating on their partners and often have affairs with several women the man may feel that he needs to keep up with his friends. To these men affairs become a way of competing with their friends. Infidelity in men is often driven by a sense of competition.Â

Many men also engage in affairs because doing so is an ego boost for them. The knowledge that they can find multiple women willing to engage in an intimate relationship with them is a tremendous self esteem builder for some men. They take pride in the ability to attract women and don’t care about the fact that doing so may destroy their relationship. To these men the excitement of the chase is almost more important than the conquest. Sometimes just knowing that other women find them desirable, is enough to stroke the ego of these men. In general it is a lack of self esteem on their part that drives them to seek out affairs in order to reiterate their attractiveness and desirability.Â

A man who is in an undesirable relationship may also be driven to cheat on their partner. If the relationship has begun to wane and the man no longer feels the same attraction to his partner he may seek out an affair out of boredom. If he feels his current relationship is lacking excitement he may also be driven to cheat in the hopes that he will find the excitement he desires elsewhere. While the wise thing may be to end the deteriorating relationship in search of a new more desirable partner, many men opt to hold onto the current relationship and engage in affairs. This may be because they fear that they may not find what they are looking for and may be left lonely and without a partner so they hold onto the failing relationship figuring that a bad relationship is better than none at all.Â

Men cheat for a variety of reasons. While none of these reasons may be justified, they do exist. The reasons that men cheat include genetics, competition, self esteem and boredom. In general while genetics may play a small part in the urge for men to cheat the majority of cheating takes place because men cannot control their sexual and competitive urges, are lacking in self esteem or are unhappy in their current relationship.

It is steadily becoming more and more acceptable for women to ask men out on dates instead of vice versa. This non-traditional gender role may be a bit confusing for some women at first but they will soon learn that this can be both a positive and a negative. No longer do women have to stand by and wait to be approached by a man. Now women are free to be the aggressors and ask out men that they find attractive. In the past a woman may have waited and waited for a guy to ask her out but now she can feel secure approaching a man and asking him out. While not having to wait for a man to make the first move may be a positive improvement in the single’s scene, the downside is that women now understand the immense pressure that men feel when asking someone out. They may find that walking up to a guy they find attractive and asking him out is not as easy as it sounds. Most likely they will gain a newfound respect for men who are willing to take the risk of asking them out.Â

Many women may be hesitant to turn down a man who asks them on a date but in today’s single’s scene, women need to realize that they can and should turn down men that they are not interested in dating. While they may want to be polite and not hurt the man’s feelings, it is perfectly acceptable to let someone know that you are not interested in dating them. You may have tried sending subtle messages to convey your lack of interest in the past but sometimes bluntness is required to get your message across. Learning to say no is an important aspect of a woman re-entering the dating scene. Women need to understand that they do not have the time or energy to date every man that approaches them and that refusing a date request is perfectly acceptable.Â

Finally a woman who re-enters the single’s scene needs to have a firm understanding of the dangers that exists in this scene. While a woman may meet many trustworthy and honest people in the single’s scene, there can be dishonest people who intend to harm you. If it has been a long time since a woman was actively involved in the single’s scene, she may not realize the changes that have taken place. It is no longer safe to agree to meet anyone in a secluded location. In fact, even if you plan a date for a well lit and populated location, you may still want to bring along a friend for security reasons. As the number of unscrupulous people entering the dating scene increases, so does the instance of date rape and acquaintance rape situations. It is no longer safe for a woman to completely trust anyone she meets while involved in the single’s scene. While a man may seem completely safe, it’s important to never put complete faith in anyone you have just met. Also, if something just doesn’t seem right with a particular man, it is best to trust your instincts and not pursue further contact with this man. The dating scene has become a potentially dangerous place and it is important for women to realize this as they re-enter the single’s scene.Â

Re-entry into the single’s scene for a woman doesn’t have to be a difficult process. In general the single’s scene has not changed tremendously but there are some key points for a woman to understand before she re-enters the single’s scene.

Since this is such an important step in a relationship, it’s important to realize that your boyfriend’s parents also recognize the significance of this meeting and will be observing you closely during this meeting. However, don’t let this intimidate you as your boyfriend already loves you so there is no real reason for his parents not to feel the same way. Understand that they will be scrutinizing you but also know that being yourself and not putting on any false airs is the best way to survive meeting his parents. If you have been true to yourself thus far in your relationship with your boyfriend then he already approves of your personality and character traits so don’t be afraid to let the real you shine through when meeting his parents. They are most likely similar to him in personality so if he likes you rest assured that they will too as long as you are up front and honest with them.Â

In meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time, it’s important to let him take the lead in discussing the status of the relationship. While the two of you may have already begun discussing marriage or moving in together, he may not be ready to share this information with his parents yet. Don’t make the assumption that he has already discussed your relationship with them and that he is comfortable letting them know what stage your relationship is at and what plans you have the future. Bringing up topics that he is not yet ready to share with his parents can make the situation awkward for everyone involved. Just follow his lead and don’t offer any information about your future plans unless your boyfriend brings up the subject.Â

Another key to survive meeting his parents is to understand that he is allowed to be critical of them but you are not. Your boyfriend may complain incessantly about his parents but deep inside he knows that he loves them and is just venting about certain things that may bother him. He may leave their house after the meeting complaining about the way his mother asked a lot of nosy questions about your relationship but if you jump in and are critical of his mother he may quickly become defensive. Even if you are just agreeing with what he is saying, he may still be offended by your opinions. Understand that your boyfriend loves his parents and may be bothered by them at times but that it is not acceptable for you to be critical of them. Of course, if they do or say something outright to offend you, it is acceptable to stick up for yourself and let them know their words or actions are unacceptable.Â

Avoiding controversial issues is also critical to surviving meeting your boyfriend’s parents. Topics that elicit a highly emotional response are never a good idea when meeting someone new for the first time. If you have opposing viewpoints, then things can become heated and uncomfortable very quickly. Even if you feel the same way about the issue, it may lead to the topic dominating the conversation and the four of you not really getting a chance to talk about anything else or really get to know each other. Steering clear of emotionally charged issues when meeting your boyfriend’s parents will keep the meeting calm and help things to go smoothly.
Meeting your boyfriend’s parents is a critical step in a relationship. Wanting to introduce you to his parents lets them know that he considers the relationship to be pretty serious and that he is hoping that you can all get along. While he is not necessarily seeking their approval of you, knowing that you can get along with his parents can be a big step in your relationship. Many men are non-confrontational in their relationships so if it’s clear that you and his parents don’t get along, he may become wary of your relationship because he doesn’t want to end up spending a great deal of time getting the three of you to learn to get along. After all they have been a part of his life for a long time and will continue to be a part of his life so severing ties with you may be easier than doing so with them.

Here are tips to know if you are in danger.

Listen to your heart.

If intuition tells you that you are not striking a string with a certain main, dump the guy, but be kind about it. Dating is not about jumping on every person that shows interest. Settling for something less than you want is not that good of an option either.

Trust yourself.

This goes with the gut feel advice. If the man seems too good to be true, chances are he really is. Don’t be misled by saccharine promises. Learn to psychoanalyze a bit. Doing some background check surely won’t hurt.

Keep your feet on the ground. Don’t be swept off your feet by the excitement of the moment. Taking things slowly will keep you safe from being hurt if the guy is not really what you expected him to be.

Never give in to peer pressure. If your roommates know about your online dating escapade and advise you to single out somebody that you don’t really like, don’t be swayed by them. If they want that guy, they can have him. Dating is not supposed to be the decision of the group.

Being too desperate over a relationship will spoil the fun of single dating life. Don’t go against that nagging but “healthy” advice of your instinct that you’re overdoing your dealings with your boyfriend or it will be your loss.

For instance, if you keep trying to patch up a romance that is obviously fading, you will be the loser in the end. Sometimes it’s best just to cut your losses and get on with your life. If you thought of him as the future father of your babies but he just wants a fling, get out of that relationship, fast!

If all the while you’ve been aiming for that long-term relationship, here are few fool-proof tips on how to spot who’s NOT the man.

1. He’s overly unreliable. Promises to call you but he won’t.
2. He does not let you in his intimate circle of friends.
3. He never spouts anything about your future together
4. He rushes you into his bed.

Keep this in mind and you’ll be well set off for the goodies of single dating. Go get him swooning over you!

1) Timing is important -Â Timing as in ‘on time’. No matter what they say, there is no such thing as ‘fashionably late’. For the first date, this can give the guy jitters and make him think that you’ve stood him up. For the later dates, having him wait for you in the living room for half an hour with either your roommate, your sister or, worse, your father is not something you want him to do – whether it be for the embarrassing stories or Dad’s ‘eyes of doom’.

2) Keep your head on straight -Â Yes, we all know dates are supposed to be fun, but knowing what’s going on is important both for your own safety and for your love life. Is your date acting suspiciously or is he just nervous? Maybe you’d want to end the date early or do something to calm him down. Is he taking notice of what you’re wearing or just ogling? The choice to either wink at him or just stare knowingly is up to you. Is his attention on you or the girl next to you? You might wish to reward him with a smile or a slap. Situational awareness is not just for soldiers on the front but also for young women on the prowl.

3) Be nice - Have a positive attitude, find things that you like and tell him. Compliment him about his clothes, how he looks and how well the date is going. It puts him at ease and also makes him feel important. It also shows him that you’re taking notice of him and you appreciate him. But, don’t lie. Like I said, look at the bright side of things – the service of the restaurant may have been slow but the ambience was terrific.

4) Do not complain -Â This may be technically part of tip three, but it deserves a separate heading. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t tell him that something is wrong or something makes you uncomfortable. The way you phrase it and the tone you use is important here. ‘Venting’, like we do with our girl friends, is not going to go over well with him since he’ll probably misinterpret it. Grin and bear it then tell him after the date in calmly what your problem was. Trust me, he’ll understand and he’ll try to make it up to you.

5) Enjoy the date - A date is a chance to get to know each other and to enjoy yourselves. Have fun during the date. Try not to be hyper-critical, but just take things in your stride. If you’re not having fun, your date will notice and, trust me, he will get nervous which will probably start ruining the experience for both of you. Also, just let your guard down for a little while. Let him see the real you. He may or may not like it, but in the end he will appreciate the honesty of the act. Besides, if he doesn’t like you for you, why should you keep on dating?

6) Afterwards, show interest - If you really like the guy, waiting for the call after a successful date is nerve-wracking. You know he’s interested and you’re definitely interested, you’re just waiting for him to call you so you could arrange another date. Try giving him a day or two. He usually has to get his act together and work up the courage to call. If he doesn’t call, he’s probably still tongue-tied from being in your presence. Call him up to say hello. Talk about the date and how you had fun and give hints. No matter how dense he is, he should then pick up on it and ask you for another date!

7) Be consistent -Â For those who’ve crossed the ‘First Date’ Rubicon, try maintaining the impression you made on him during the first date. Men don’t like surprises except, of course, if they plan them. This doesn’t mean, however, that you’ll just give him the first date you. Talk to each other, both on and off dates, to get to know each other more. What he got on the first date was a sneak peek, what he should get from your continued dating should be the entire reel.

Well, there they are seven tips for dating success! Hopefully, this advice could help lead you through today’s tough tangle of relationships. Happy hunting!